Welcome to the Wise Compassion site.
I hope you’ll take some time to look around and find what you need. There is an old saying that wisdom and compassion are like two wings of a bird, both are needed to fly. I hope this website provides you with the opportunity to deepen your understanding (wisdom) and cultivate ways to open the heart (compassion). Neither wisdom nor compassion are complete without the other. I am deeply committed to helping people develop more compassion and well-being for themselves, in their relationships, and for their students. We must be wise about what is truly kind and compassionate and what isn’t actually helpful. Opening our hearts requires great courage and also support. On this site you will find links to courses, articles & books, practices, assessment tools and research. You will also find ways to support your work as a therapist and/or teacher. May this website and the resources offered here provide support that allows you to grow in wisdom and compassion.
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Compassion in the news
Dr. Mitch's Self-Compassion Chili Recipe, by Mitch Earleywine
"If these beans all only come in 15.5 oz containers, use those. It’s all about self-compassion. Sixteen ounces. Fifteen and a half ounce. Eleventeen ounces. No big deal. Get the salsa that you like best. If you like spicy, get spicy. If you like medium, get medium. You get the idea. Just don’t get any with corn in it. That’s weird."
Mindfulness for All, by Susan Pollack MTS, Ed.D
"'This has been a summer of vulnerable bodies, a summer of unjust violence once again carried out in the guise of justice, a summer of fear and fear mongering.' This violent and blood-soaked summer has had an impact on us all. How does mindfulness fit in? The good news is that recent research suggests that when we take responsibility for our minds, and engage in and cultivate practices that are meant to foster compassion and equality, we can decrease racial bias."
Getting Along: Loving the Other Without Losing Yourself, by Chris Germer
"Over the years I’ve come to a conclusion: Human beings are basically incompatible. Think about it. We live in different bodies, we’ve had different childhoods, and at any given moment our thoughts and feelings are likely to differ from anybody else’s, even those of our nearest and dearest. Given the disparities in our genetic makeup, conditioning, and life circumstances, it’s a miracle we get along at all."
"... when we fail in a big way, we’re likely to become engulfed in shame, and our sense of self is dismantled. We all know what this feels like: We’re unable to think straight, temporarily suspended in time and place, dislocated from our bodies, and uncertain who we really are. Shame has a way of wiping out the very observer who is needed to be mindful of our situation. What does it take to rescue yourself and begin to address the situation effectively? You need to treat yourself with the same kindness and support that you’d provide for a friend."
Can't Keep Your New Years Resolutions? Try Self-Compassion, by Kristin Neff
"Why is it so hard to stick to resolutions that require us to make effective or lasting changes? I would argue the problem isn’t that we try and we fail –– the problem is how we treat ourselves when we fail. ... From early childhood, we are taught how we must succeed at all costs. What most of us aren’t taught is how to fail successfully so we can change and grow."